Imagine telling your 18-year-old that she’s going to suffer from depression the very next year, chronic insomnia, leg pains and mental anguish?
She’s never going to find love, will become a breadwinner for five people and struggle to achieve her dreams of becoming a famous playwright?
On top of that, she will never know what it’s like to don a graduation cap and coat, give a graduation speech, get a car as a present or travel the world like she wanted to.
As if that’s not bad enough, she’ll never know what love is because she was sacrificed in the name of a man’s love.
I certainly wouldn’t have guessed that, but that’s where I am today.
Welcome, Nubian Queen! I’m Lizzie, a young, black, African woman just like you: I suffer from depression and have for the past six years (gosh, that’s a whole human being!).
I’ve experienced everything ranging from psycho relatives to unemployment, hunger and physical illness.
Has it been easy? Hell no. Have I had good times? Of course. Have I gotten help? Somewhat.
So why this blog?
Because I know I’m not alone. YOU’RE not alone. We are the strongest beings on the face of the earth.
- Everything they’re not and so desperately trying to be
This blog is For Us By Us (shoutout to Solange for creating the best masterpiece for black women yet)
Why the need for a depression blog specifically catering to black women?
I have been scouring the Internet for useful information on depression in black women specifically, but there is NOTHING.
This is relative, though, as I found Tumblr blogs like Black Girl + Mental Health, My Depression is Like – Black Girls Talking and the black girls with mental illness tag. It’s the next most depressing thing after suffering from depression.
There’s a book or two on Amazon and an article or two on African American women and depression, but that’s just about it.
I want to change that with the help of this blog.
I would like for:
- This blog to be a source of hope, positivity and love for black women in this world that puts us at the bottom of the food chain.
- Black women, irrespective of age, culture, circumstance, sexual orientation and educational, social or economic status to have someone or somewhere to go to when they are feeling down.
- The world to know that as strong as we are, we, too, need to break down, we too are weak and must not be ostracized for our weaknesses.
- The world to acknowledge that there is strength in weakness. The fact that they’ve made black women emotionless, titanium badasses is all the more reason for us to be allowed to break down and be depressed.
- Black women to be able to vent in carefully guarded forums without judgment, i.e. trolls or black men telling us to ‘get over ourselves.’
While the main focus is on helping women cope with depression, the blog will also focus on matters that affect black women like relationships, career choices, bullying at school, cyber bullying, divorce, health and other topics unique to black women’s lives and experiences.
Am I qualified, i.e. a psychologist, PhD holder or someone with some clout?
Erm, no. I’m just an ordinary young woman who happens to suffer from depression, but wants to help other black women know that it’s OK to be plagued by this ‘mental flu.’ Just like a physical ailment, depression SHOULD and CAN be addressed.
Inspiration Behind the Name – Afro Depro Chic
Afro – our hair type, as well as our race/descent (African, African American).
Depro – colloquial term for depression.
Chic – play on “chick;” also “chic” as in sophisticated and elegant, while STILL suffering from depression.
So are you ready to join me on this journey of understanding, compassion, healing and support?
Remember, this is For. Us. By. Us. Who better to talk about depression in black women than a depressed black woman herself?
I’m always an email or call away so don’t hesitate to contact me. I will personally respond to you. Make connections and friendships in the forums where you can find someone to chat to.
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